This will be my challenge today to almost remain stoic but firm. In March of 2020 he worked at a UPs store and he stole 11k in cash from an old lady, even though he knew there was cameras everywhere. He is very terrible for my daughters mental health I have pictures and evidence of the things he says to them about me and lies he tells about me. Most of all, you can navigate this stressful time with the right mindset. Remember that you dont have to let them control you any longer. Keep in mind that state custody laws assert that it's in children's best interests for parents to share custody. Now 8inths later my child is unrecognizable Im going to ask that the parenting time that they ordered be stopped shes having a mental breakdown of sorts from visiting him. I called 911 and he was arrested for domestic violence. Divorce can hurt anyone, but youre also dealing with someone vindictive, spiteful, and manipulative. 5 Ways to Deal With Feelings of Not Being Good Enough, How Many First Marriages End in Divorce? While the day-to-day distance can elevate the stress, anxiety, depression, and frustration of. If you dont have a place to live- or if your home feels unsafe- its worth visiting a local domestic violence center or homeless shelter. He studied at the University of Amsterdam and has a bachelor's in Clinical Psychology. Now, your kids are subjected to the smear campaign against you and you find it is actually working. It just requires creativity, effort, and careful planning. Look for someone active in both state and national family law bar associations. Stop Blaming Yourself To start, let go of self-blame and regret. Psychology Today 2023 Sussex Publishers, LLC. I had passed for everything. It's impossible to have a "normal" divorce with a narcissist. Well here is where he has hung himself. Right by their eyes givin them bangs. You will be in my prayers Vie. THIS is How to Get Child Custody From a Narcissist - The Narcissistic Life Custody disputes can feel heartbreaking. Instead, maintain open communication, and be empathic to your childs needs. But when the conflicts are toxic, they can have a negative impact on a. Its only been a month but i already have my social security card again that was stolen right before she started a huge argument and basically discarded me.. and i have a great job lined up and it pays better than any job ive had before.. im honestly trying to get really stable as fast as possible so my lil one has somewhere to go when my ex feels like she does not want her anymore because i hate to say it but i think she will not want to be her mom and do the right things she needs to do she honestly gets comments about her house being messy and her attitude is garbage and you know what she does? Demonstrate weakness. When requesting this information, let them know it isnt about you. Other parents struggle too. (You can also create plans for parallel parenting as an alternative to co-parenting.). You can easily create a detailed parenting time schedule from commonly-used templates or from scratch. Men have long been silent and stoic about their inner lives, but theres every reason for them to open up emotionallyand their partners are helping. If your parenting plan and schedule are turned into court orders by the judge, they're your rules for co-parenting with your narcissist ex. So one week things started escalating because i had taken money out (for a fathers day gift for him) and i had gotten lunch 2 days at work.